Thursday, July 19, 2007

Black, Adopted & Murdered in Maine

THEY CALLED HER their African Queen. Last week, she was found dead in her home in Wayne, Maine, a mere 10 minutes up the road from the farm.

I never met 19-year-old Alexandra Mills, but my husband Job told me that her mother bought my book from him a year or so ago. Turns out Aleigh, as she was called, was adopted as an infant. Her family moved to Maine so she could attend Kents Hill, a prestigious boarding school, as a day student instead of a boarder.

Job wasn't sure if the mother bought Fumbling Toward Divinity for her, her daughter, or both, but I vaguely remember signing the book to Aleigh. Perhaps her mother would read it first and then give it as a gift to her daughter. Perhaps Aleigh might have already expressed a desire to search for members of her birth family. Black people presumably from Texas. Her parents are Caucasian.

What does that matter? You might ask. With so many Black babies shipped to Great Britain because so few will adopt them in the states, it matters that anyone, much less two white people, adopted this African Queen as a baby.

Her father found her body. Her bright regal smile dimmed forever.

As of this writing, no one knows why she was murdered. But I have been haunted by it because there aren't many Black people in Maine, and certainly not many Black adoptees that I know of to boot.

We were connected.

I hope the mystery of her murder is solved. Small-town police are tight-lipped and may or may not have the wherewithal to bring to justice the murderer of a Black woman, but I hope I'm wrong.

My thoughts and prayers go out to her parents who must suffer the senseless death of their only child. I hope they don't blame themselves. Surely they don't deserve that burden.

Oh, the stupidity of loss.

UPDATED - 11:59 PM. Shortly after posting this entry, I had to run an errand. On the road, one of my closest friends called me to tell me he was on his way home from Wayne where he had just dropped off a meal to a close friend who'd just lost his adopted and only child to murder last week.

He didn't even have the call the man by name. I simply said, "I know them."

Yes. We're connected. Still.

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Alexandra Leigh Mills obituary
Death of Wayne Woman Being Called Homicide (with video)
School fondly recalls their 'African Queen'
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Anonymous said...

Hi Craig,

That is just such a tragic story.


Craig Hickman said...

Hi Dan.

It really is haunting.

Manda said...

That is so sad. And really scary for me. I'm a Black Adoptee in Maine too.

Craig Hickman said...

Hi Manda, welcome.

I didn't mean to put fear in you, but it truly is a sad story.

And I must say when the reporter asked "why would anyone want to kill this vibrant young woman," I almost spit out my tea.

We may never know what happened or what the motive was, but as a Black man in Maine, I'm not going to act as if race couldn't have been a factor.