tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post2958947975550542284..comments2023-07-18T11:57:06.214-04:00Comments on Fumbling Toward Divinity: What’s in a Name?Craig Hickmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-60294767000661664052007-06-05T21:43:00.000-04:002007-06-05T21:43:00.000-04:00Great post. I am not an adoptee (I hope I'm using ...Great post. I am not an adoptee (I hope I'm using the right terminology) but naming is truly a sacred thing among Black people. I am named for both of my grandmothers. I never liked either of my names but now I have accepted them and the implications of being named for these two women, one from Cuso Island and the other from the island of Eleuthera. It explains the constant pull between two Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15079111598976360942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-57767867592179293422006-12-22T13:36:00.000-05:002006-12-22T13:36:00.000-05:00kim.kim,
Thanks for sharing your anger and feelin...kim.kim,<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your anger and feelings on this subject. Naming is extremely important, so your perspective is welcome.<br /><br />My mother thought my original name was Jody. That's what she thought she heard when the foster family said good bye to me (As it turns out, they were saying Joey). But the foster family was never supposed to use my name around any prospective Craig Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-27210346253452306602006-12-22T08:31:00.000-05:002006-12-22T08:31:00.000-05:00I wouldn't be angry if she changed her name hersel...I wouldn't be angry if she changed her name herself.<br /><br />You were pretty much stolen from your mother and the only thing she was able to give you was your name.<br /><br />Of course parents have a right to name their children and your mother named you. An adopted child almost always comes with a name. It is disrespectful to change the child's name. It's wiping out their origins, ignoring Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-41948824622918963472006-12-21T13:39:00.000-05:002006-12-21T13:39:00.000-05:00kim.kim, I feel like I have answered that question...kim.kim, I feel like I have answered that question with this entry, but I can try to explain further when I give it some more thought.<br /><br />I'd be interested in hearing why you cringe when an adoptee expresses gratitude (remember, we also had no say in the matter). Everyone is has a unique story. Sure, there may be similarities but everyone's story is entirely their own. I don't know yours,Craig Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-32392287135845711202006-12-21T11:36:00.000-05:002006-12-21T11:36:00.000-05:00Why are you grateful that they changed your name? ...Why are you grateful that they changed your name? Everytime an adoptee says they are grateful I cringe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-49435257580675979972006-12-20T13:41:00.000-05:002006-12-20T13:41:00.000-05:00Although, I'd love to hear more, kim.kim.Although, I'd love to hear more, kim.kim.Craig Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-61032965066427365432006-12-20T13:35:00.000-05:002006-12-20T13:35:00.000-05:00Some do and some don't, kim.kim. Mine did and I'm ...Some do and some don't, kim.kim. Mine did and I'm eternally grateful.Craig Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-81748204589912046122006-12-20T13:32:00.000-05:002006-12-20T13:32:00.000-05:00It makes me angry that adoptive parents change the...It makes me angry that adoptive parents change the names we give our children.<br />It's one of the things I hate most about adoption.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-17813953732997807042006-12-20T02:33:00.000-05:002006-12-20T02:33:00.000-05:00Hi, trish.
Thanks for stopping by.
Are you clos...Hi, trish. <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by.<br /><br />Are you close enough to have coffee?<br /><br />(smile)Craig Hickmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336837289054015211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9607677.post-59364987591419610222006-12-20T01:23:00.000-05:002006-12-20T01:23:00.000-05:00I truly enjoyed reading this post. I met my birth...I truly enjoyed reading this post. I met my birth mother 8 years ago, and yes, the name thing is an interesting reality. She named me Stacey Lane, which I really love, but my adoptive parents named me Patricia Lynne. It is comforting to see that Jane (birthmother) named me something whimsical (us, completely) yet my adoptive parents gave me a more stoic, something-to-reach-for name. It has Trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13811632342691822061noreply@blogger.com